Why does this matter in our busy lives- the notion of ego and belief in the 'story' of our lives ?
- Ego has taken on the role of Master in our lives - rather than as the servant - it's appropriate position
- For many, ego has usurped our identity...not knowing who we are without our material markers that demonstrate that we are 'someone' (the prestigious car, home address... or simple need for approval, or to be 'right'
- Believing in our thoughts, we find ourselves carrying--often unwittingly-- regrets from the 'past' and worry about the future.
- Believing in our thoughts, we also find ourselves locked in conflict with others who are important to us - we may be holding beliefs that the 'other' should or should not be doing something (according to our belief)- or should or should not have done what they did. This belief becomes a story in our head that gives birth to unresolved conflicts & resentments.
- We believe in Separation - that we are separate 'things' and that our life is 'happening' to us.
- For many, we are Not in the Present Moment - therefore, the alternative is being caught in Thought about what has already happened (and our disapproval or dissatisfaction with it - or thoughts of what is going to be in the future--creating worry, frustration, sense of hopelessness. This frequently causes us suffering, feeling stressed out or conflict, feeling separate from other people and living creatures.
- As ego thinks in terms of 'me' and 'mine' - these thoughts perpetuate a subtle (or not so subtle) fear of lack - creating needs for Things, sense of 'not-enough' as evidenced by the rampant consumerism today - consider how many storage units exist in a square mile around your location.
Thoughts (I can't stand this - this is horrible, I have to wash the car, go to the bathroom,
I have too much to do, I don't have enough money, I think she's mad at me)
Emotions (frustration, annoyance, worry, anxiety, guilt, excitement, hopeful)
Sensations (hot, cold, ache, tingle)
States (low mood, elation)
and Experiences (losing your keys, having a fender-bender, receiving a positive review at work, caught in traffic, walking on the beach)
these all come and go
– like clouds passing through the sky. Awareness (Being in Presence) sees these internal and external things appearing and then disappearing. Awareness is always available to us no matter what is happening – we can return to the present moment – Presence - creating that inner space.
- thoughts appear out of nowhere
- suddenly, thoughts disappear.
- They arise on their own
- you don't cause them
- Simply Notice, without judgment and without needing to manipulate or change anything.
- That which sees the thought or emotion is Awareness. Awareness is who we truly are. We are not the ego that says "I am".
We see around us, today, how increasingly polarized people's thoughts and attitudes are, today. Believing in our thoughts, we are polarized, we believe in separation - the Other - who is Demonized. Cooperation becomes non-existent - in the workplace, in our relationships, in our political system.
and no longer believing the thoughts that perpetuate the story.
We find ourselves less and less arguing with reality.
More often we are accepting 'What Is'... rather than resisting, complaining or 'shoulding' (it shouldn't be this way - it should be that way)
Being in presence, we may gain a sense of peace... of connectedness.
Experiment with this - share your experiences of Noticing in this community of readers :)