- working with Stones as representatives (representing an issue, a goal, another person in their lives);
- working with hidden information written on paper and including a stone;
- working with other humans as representatives setting up an Intention in a group setting...
SITUATION: A Seeker's Intention: to work on valuing himself and his capabilities more than he currently does.
Seeker selects a representative for his Intention - increased self valuation - and he stands as himself - and, together, he and the representative for his Intention find their place in relation to each other. The representative for his Intention moves away from the Client - as far away in the room as possible. Seeker appears perplexed and unsure. A representative for the child-part of Seeker is selected and finds his place in the scene. The child-part of the seeker refuses to be 'looked at' by the seeker - the child-part conveys anxiety and panicy feelings. When a representative for the seeker's mother was brought in to the scene, the energy began to shift.
OUTCOME: More unfolded in this constellation as the representative for the seeker's mother entered - however, what was demonstrated was the next step for seeker in establishing a more conscious relationship with his own inner, traumatised child part. He expressed his realization that his life was out of balance - too outer focused.
Seeker expressed seeing something played out, externally via the constellation, that might have taken him very much longer to come to realize on his own.
Utilizing Stones as Representatives for issues and other people
Seeker's experience: "During this session it became very clear to me that I have ignored and rejected the child part of me for a long time. After working with Nancy and the stones, I became aware of something...the child part of me feels what my mother must have felt growing up in poverty and pregnant at 14,... unnoticed, ignored, rejected. I placed the child part representative next to me, but not touching or facing me. I placed my mother's mother near her, but not touching or facing her. I believed as a child, I "unconsciously" felt unnoticed, ignored and rejected by my mother. Very similar to what my mother could have felt. I don't know, because we've never talked about how she felt as a child. Nancy asked me to talk to the child part of me...acknowledge her, listen to her. I did, I told her, "I love you and I will acknowledge you." It was pretty intense and emotional. At the end of the session I had a real sense of peace. I want to give the child part of me the attention and love that she perceived herself to be missing, I see that I need to give that to her now. Wow, this is big!"