Problems affecting families have been passed down, unknowingly, through generations - often due to displaced Love.
Knowing Love has a healing and gratifying effect on us and on those around us. However, unknowing, Blind Love hands down through the generations grief and problems that we live out unconsciously due to unconscious family
loyalties--unknowing, blind love..
HOW does this happen?
One example: when family members, through the generations, are in any way 'excluded' or lose their place in the family
--due to wars, early death, miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, murders, tragic and accidental death, adoption,
--broken engagement, divorce, victim/perpetrators of injustice, family secrets, disowned family member
this excluded family member's fate is unknowingly taken over and continued by a later member of the family - even a generation or more down the line. The member who takes over the fate of the earlier member has no conscious awareness of this.
This is done through Blind love.
This
experience of taking over the fate of an earlier member is called an
"entanglement". We can also live out unconscious loyalties for our
parents or grandparents without realizing this.
What are the possible indicators?
Entanglements show up in our lives as:
--chronic health or energy issues, relationship issues that repeat,
---lack
of sense of belonging, sense
of isolation, feelings of failure or dissatisfaction with one's life,
--difficulty maintaining relationship, weight issues, eating disorder,issues with money, chronic pain, --psychiatric
problems, anxiety, depression, chronic irritability, substance abuse,alcoholism, --schizophrenia.... are all experiences that may suggest 'entanglements' with ancestors...
How the Family Constellation works:
A
group of participants are seated in a circle. A person wanting to do a
piece of work sits in the empty seat next to the facilitator.
A piece of constellation work starts by this person selecting an issue to be worked on and briefly identifying it with facilitator.
When
the issue has been identified - the facilitator asks the person to
select, from among the participants, representatives for - for example,
the person's own self, mother, father...
In this way, Constellation work sets up a visual method for these entanglements to be witnessed, experienced and starting
a healing process. The person selects and places these representatives
according to her inner vision of her family members' relationships - on
the workshop floor.
The facilitator encourages the chosen
representatives to tune into the wisdom in their bodies and to feel
where they are drawn to move, to look... and to notice how they feel.
These selected representatives are accessing the 'Knowing Field'
--accessing this 'Knowing' through their bodies not their minds.
The
facilitator observes the process unfolding, gaining information,
inquiring into the representatives to speak their inner experiences--accessing awareness of bodily sensations and emotions-- in
representing this unknown family member of the other person. Truths are made visible that had previously been unseen. Entanglements made visible can begin a healing process.
Resolution of entanglements is possible when the Love through the generations becomes "knowing" rather than "blind" or entangled... this resolution creates a new image in the client's mind's-eye and a process of healing and
fulfillment for the client and
the ancestors within that family system begins to
percolate within the family soul.
A lovely introduction to constellation work might be setting up a Nature Constellation or a Mind, Body, Spirit constellation. These two constellations beautifully illustrate the workings of the 'knowing field' in a simple way. I will provide an example of a Mind, Body, Spirit constellation - permission was granted to share this:
The individual (we will refer to as X) selected three representatives from the circle of participants. As this would be a 'blind' constellation - meaning that the representatives, in this case, were not informed as to who or what they would be representing - the mind could be of no help! Instead, X had three pieces of paper, folded up, each one indicated either mind, body, spirit written on the paper - X handed one of the folded papers to each representative who simply held it, remaining folded, in their hand.
In X's constellation, the representative for Mind (remember - no one knew who was representing which) moved away from where X originally placed this representative and stood apart from the other two representatives. Mind said, "I feel like I'm in my own little world; I like it here on my own."
Body and Spirit were nearer to each other and each stated their wish that the lone representative would be closer. However, that lone representative appeared to be gazing off into space barely recognizing the other two. The representative that we later learned stood for Body had said that it felt 'cut off' and felt 'out-of-touch'. The representative for Spirit stated it felt available yet also feeling disconnected.
When each representative unfolded their papers and read their representation, the meaning became more clear to X. X had a tendency to live in the head - living from the neck up, a safer place to occupy and, therefore, experiencing a sense of being cut off from the body.
What was remarkable here is that the representatives were able to access wisdom from their own bodies in the 'knowing field' even though lacking, mentally, the concrete information of who they were representing. Constellation work brings visibility to what is true - and we can allow (or not) this wisdom to percolate in our soul.
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